Saturday, December 31, 2011

Mahalo 2011, Aloha 2012

It is now 10pm MST in my part of the world. In less than 2 hours I am going to ring in the New Year. Today is New Years Eve. I am eagerly awaiting the beginning of 2012. This year I am continuing "the season of change" by spending NYE in my apartment with my bf and our two cats instead of going to my parents or out to a party. It has been years since we have stayed home for a holiday.


This change brought about great things. The bf and I were able to clean up the house, wash, dry and put away laundry, put new sheets and pillows, wash the dishes and clean the kitty litter among other things! I on the other hand paid off our bills, got our calendar sorted and ready for January, deleted ALL my emails and archived the important ones (an amazing feat if I do say so myself) and emailed who I needed to email. HURRAY for us!! Clean house and a clean mind for NYE is a great beginning for 2012 ^_^

My last TO DO list (besides throwing the garbage w/ the bf (symbolic)) would be to write a blog to summarize 2011. As part of our new tradition for our girls get together, my friends and I did a "Christmas Letter" to tell one another what has happened to us in the last year. Through this I have been inspired to write one for my blog. While writing a very personal letter to my friends, my heart and soul lifted into the air since it felt like a great release from keeping everything inside. Putting my thoughts into words has always been a great outlet for me and I can't wait to keep doing this again! It's a great way to take stock of what has happened, to shed the old and welcome the new.

My Journey in Words - 2011

2011 started off looking very promising for me. I had a great outlook for the New Years filled with resolutions to be a better person, body, mind and spirit. Thinking back on it now I did put a lot of pressure on myself. A lot was going on that year. School, new promotion, and lots of stress trying to keep a balanced life.

During this time, I was already in the midst of one of the worst depression periods in my life. It became so bad that I was having panic attacks at work and having major episodes that I couldn't leave the house for days on end. As predicted, shit hit the fan and I ended taking up a sick leave for a while to figure things out and concentrate on my life. My time off was hauntingly creepy yet peaceful. I didn't have the distraction that the office and school offered. I actually had to face my problems and battle my demons. Gladly through the help of family, professionals, guardian angels and through my hard work, I was able to rise above my darkest hole and climb out. The one thing that came out of this was an epiphany - that I needed to go back to school and pursue a higher education so I can have an even better job.
 
 
The same day in February, I met my employer for tea to hand in my resignation letter and in the afternoon I went to my first day of school to upgrade my English. I was able to succeed in this and prove to myself that I still had what it takes to make it and that I was anything but a failure. My teacher had given me a Resiliency Award recognizing my hard work and I ended up having the highest grades in class. Most importantly, I met some cool people with different personalities and they've opened my eyes to so much. They've shared their passions and in turn lit a fire under me.
 
 
Another highlights this year was how many adventures I had by putting myself out there instead of hiding in my bedroom! Friends and I formed a team and joined BeCause, a United Way organization to join their Why?Race inner-city scavenger race. This was such a great cause and an awesome time to get to know my city and spend the day with friends. Another volunteer opp. was being a Stage Manager for the Lilac Festival. Having absolutely no experience, I accepted the job and everything went well! No late acts or boos from the crowd - PHEW!
 
 
I also celebrated my Quarter of a Century birthday this year and it included a summer adventure - a full day of Horseback Riding and White Water Rafting with 8 of my closest friends! It was such an amazing experience!!
My friendships and the strength of my character has also been tested greatly this year. My friend of 13 years and I separated ways. After a lot of soul searching, I made the decision to end the friendship and through the process of getting through the anger and hurt, I was able to realize how strong I was on my own. It made me realize what I was capable off and encouraged me to not only strengthen the friendships I already had, but also to reach out to others I never would have thought of doing. It forced me to define and erect boundaries in my relationships with everyone in my life which before was very weak. It also made me see what kind of friend I had been and make amends and changes to those flawed characteristics as best I can. I realize that to have good friends, I first had to be a good friend myself and a better person in general.
Close to the end of the year I have returned to meditation and it has given me peace of mind and much needed clarity.

And that's the gist of my 2011 so far. It was a year of twist and turns and lessons learned. I was able to rise against the obstacles life threw at me, and now I am here awaiting the possibilities of what 2012 will offer.
I have no resolutions this year.
My slate is clean and I am choosing to keep it that way so I can better adapt to what's to come.
As my fave go to quote says: "God never gives me anything I can't handle." All I need to do is believe in myself that I am strong enough to handle anything and yet humble and grateful enough to enjoy life's many amazing blessings.
Have a great 2012 everyone and may it be a prosperous one full of happiness and contentment.



Off to watch coverage of the world ringing in the New Year cozying up with my man and a glass of wine in my hand. Thank you!

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Meaningful Gift - In Lieu of Christmas cards

Dear friends and family,

In lieu of giving out Christmas cards this year, a donation has been made in your name to the Living Gifts program via Ten Thousand Villages and The Mennonite Central Committee.

The money that would have been used to purchase christmas cards including increasing costs of national and international postage -  instead bought a Maasai family in Kenya's Rift Valley a Goat of their very own!

Photo courtesy of Ten Thousand Villages

Taken from Ten Thousand Villages website:

"In Kenya’s Rift Valley, Maasai families have for generations traveled with their cattle and goats, migrating for grazing pastures and water. Today, as Kenya’s population grows, families must find ways to support themselves in one place. MCC is working with partners to train Maasai in agricultural practices and livestock management, providing families with goats that are bred for their ability to resist disease and produce high milk yields. Families give the first-born goat kid back to the program. The goat’s future offspring may then be used to build their herd and produce more milk or may be sold to pay school fees or buy additional food for the family.

Your gift of food does more than provide an animal. It gives families and communities the power to improve their own lives."

Rest assured that you have not been forgotten. May this gift bring you joy as it has given hope to someone in need.

Sincerely,

Gracelyn

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And for those that are interested in doing something like this, I very much encourage you to do so!! There's a whole bunch of them out there. Here's a list of the ones I've come across:

  • Ten Thousand Villages - Living Gifts = A fair trade organization that "...creates opportunities for artisans in developing countries to earn income by bringing their products and stories to our markets through long-term, fair trading relationships." They partner with MCC. This is my second time donating to them and have never had issues. First was in one of their fair trade locations which has a bunch of neat stuff you'd never find anywhere else! This year I purchased online. Both methods have been hassle free!
  • Unicef - Survival Gifts = Lots of very interesting choices you'd be surprise people in poor countries actually need and prices ranging from $10+. During previous years, I usually buy their Christmas cards at an Ikea kiosk and the money goes towards aids, women empowerment, school supplies, etc. And the cards are beautifully done.
  • Plan Canada - Gifts of Hope = An organization that matches your gift! An example is a gift of Mango Trees for $100 is matched to be worth $700! Amazing!
  • Mennonite Committee Central = Usually I stay away from "religious" based charities, but the convenience of their partnership with Ten Thousand Villages gave me no choice. They do great work around the world and at the end of the day, charity is charity, no matter what religion you choose or not choose to follow.
  • World Food Programme - Gift of Hope = Give a gift that feeds hunger in Ethiopia. Your donation is matched by the folks at LG.
  • UEnd:poverty = I found this by fluke. The barrista at a local organic coffee shop introduced me to this charity. Very interesting concept where you can donate by country and by cause. LOTS to choose from that covers pretty much all causes that may be dear to your heart.
And of course there are charities that are closer to home. Check your local charities, food banks, shelters, etc. to see what you can do to help!

Giving a gift of hope to someone is a very rewarding experience. I am very lucky and blessed to be living in a prosperous country and in my own little way, this is a chance to spread my blessings.

Do you know of any charities to add to this list? I welcome your opinions, experiences and suggestions!!

Merry Christmas!

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

The Oyster

Another brilliant poem from Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul





THE OYSTER

There once was an oyster                        
Whose story I tell,
Who found some sand
Had got into his shell.
It was only a grain,
But it gave him a great pain.
For oysters have feelings
Although they're so plain.

Now, did he berate
The harsh workings of fate
That had brought him
To such a deplorable state?
Did he curse at the government,
Cry for election,
And claim that the sea should
Have given him protection?

No--he said to himself
As he lay on a shell,
Since I cannot remove it,
I shall try to improve it.
Now the years have rolled around,
As the years always do,
And he came to his ultimate
Destiny--stew.

And the small grain of sand
That had bothered him so
Was a beautiful pearl
All richly aglow.
Now the tale has a moral;
For isn't it grand
What an oyster can do
With a morsel of sand?

What couldn't we do
If we'd only begin
With some of the things
That get under our skin.

Author Unknown

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Finding Solitude in nature



When I was in junior high I used to borrow a bunch of Solitudes CDs from the library and play them in the background while studying. They always put me at ease after a stressful day of navigating school work and a part-time job. Best of all they calmed my raging teen hormones quiet well. Thinking back on it now, thank goodness for Solitudes!!

So last night after work, for the first time I decided to listen to relaxation music while going out for a walk. WOW what an AMAZING experience it was!

Relaxing music + soft breeze and fresh air + quiet white surroundings = Pure Bliss! ❤

 Here are some pics I took while on that walk.


Winter is such a magical time, not just because of the holidays, but of how peaceful the landscape is. There is a hush, a quiet stillness of the earth hibernating and the peacefulness and serenity of it all. It may be freezing cold, but walks during the winter almost beats walks in the summer.


Caught a glimpse of the sunset! What a great pop of color amidst all that white.




Footprints in the snow! Mine and a bunny rabbit's.  The one on the right is an attempt to show how deep the snow was on some parts of the hill. This part was up to my knees!


Winter is here and I'm planning to enjoy EVERY minute of it; blizzards, frostbites, late buses and all!

Monday, December 5, 2011

Gift Wish List


It's that time of year again!! Christmas is just around the corner and some of us are racking our brains trying to think of what to get that person on our list. If you're the gift giver, you know how frustrating the quest to get the "perfect" gift can be! As if we need more to worry about during this ever growing stressful season.

On the other hand, ever been asked a kazillion times "What do you want for Christmas/Birthday/?" When I get asked this, I draw a total blank! How cruel can faith be when you've got this long list of wants...eerr.."needs and must-haves" and nothing, NADA, zip comes to mind!? And what is up with the guilty voice that choose to come in that moment! This is what goes through my head: "How selfish am I if I say something? What if this person can't afford it? What if it's going to take forever for him/her to find it? What if they don't even know what I'm talking about and end up getting me that ugly sweater that can moonlight as a backscratcher!?" :-O Oh dear!!

So this year things are going to change. It's going to be more organized. Below is My "OMG I just HAVE to have this or I will diiiiiiieeeee!!! List.


P.S. Lovely friends and family, feel free to take notes. And for those that want to give us a "Couple Gift", don't despair. It's at the bottom. See how thoughtful I am making this super easy for y'all? he he he ^_^


*** Let me be clear: THIS IS A GUIDELINE. In no way, shape or form am I forcing anyone to buy me anything! ***



 House booties from Superstore
 I ❤ the tribal pattern on these. Super cozy for my cold toes for only $12. What a steal!

These two above are from Bed Bath & Beyond. One on the left unfolds into 3 different sections for necklaces, bracelets and earings! The one on the right is strictly for necklaces which is encased in a glass plastic case. Perfect for my collection ^^

I ❤ these! I first saw something similar to them at Banff years ago for $40! These are only $12 at Winners! My favorite is the lady in the red gown. Next is the one on the right with the tutu silver skirt. Perfect for necklaces!

I may not own a lot of makeup but nevertheless, my makeup "collection" needs organization at its best! Has spots for brushes, lipsticks, etc. Having them all organized and laid out properly could inspire me to be the next Promise Tamang! .....ok..that is reaching..but a girl can dream =D

Roxy Biker Jacket in Bronze (Medium) - Winners $27.99
My black biker jacket was stolen at the mall recently T_T. This would be an awesome replacement! So soft and feels like leather.

Tea Tree set for acne prone skin - The Body Shop
I have always wanted to try out a Body Shop face regime.

 Cosmetic Warrior by Lush
I love love love their product!!

Bedazzled Card Holder from Winners for $9.99

Patent Leatherette Chainstrap Handbag in Coral ($27.80) - Forever XXI
I have had my eye on this "FOREVER" (yeaaaa..wink wink). So close to buying it before but the only one they had instore had a scratch. But I'm super glad I waited because the price dropped from $35!


Above are GIFT CARDS galore! STILL can't find a present to get me? Here are some GCs that I would ❤ to get and would actually use!
1. H&M
2. Cadillac Fairview shop card for Chinook Mall
3. Core TD Square mall GC
4. Forever  XXI Gift card

Monday, November 28, 2011

Please Listen

Depression is a tricky thing. Not only for the one suffering from it, but from the loved ones that want to be there to help. Yes I get it. You may be thinking "how can we just stand by while you wallow in pain? I've read all these books and know all these things so if you do this, or try this, or don't this, then you'll be fine!!"

No it doesn't quiet work that way.

My advice to you well intentioned friends and family is to STOP! Don't try to fix things, because you can't. Really. Just shut up and listen!

And if you still don't get it...read this poem below. It explains it best.

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Please Listen

When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving advice,
you have not done what I asked
nor heard what I need.


When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way,
you are trampling on my feelings.


When I ask you to listen to me
and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,
you have failed me -- strange as that may seem.


Listen, please!
All I asked was that you listen.
Not talk nor "do"—just hear me.
Advice is cheap.
A quarter gets both "Dear Abby" and astrological forecasts
in the same newspaper.
That I can do for myself. I'm not helpless.
Maybe discouraged and faltering -- but not helpless.


When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself,
you contribute to me seeming fearful and weak.


But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel,
no matter how seemingly irrational, then I can quit trying to
convince you and get about to understanding what's behind
what I am saying and doing -- to what I am feeling.


When that's clear, chances are so will the answers be, and I won't need any advice. (Or then, I'll be able to hear it!)


Perhaps that's why, for some people, prayer works, because God is mute, and doesn't give advice or try to fix what we must take care of ourselves


So, please listen and just hear me.


And if you want to talk, let's plan for your turn, and I promise I'll listen to you.

— Anonymous

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Like Crazy

Thanks to Calgary International Film Festival, I got the privilege to watch the advance screening of "Like Crazy". It's a film about long distance relationships and it's highs and lows.

Watching this movie made me think of how much a coward I was for giving up so easily when I was in this situation. On the other hand, it gave me some peace knowing that I wasn't the only one. Love is already complicated enough. Adding the complexity of living miles apart, the jealousy and mistrust, the worry, the longing and everything else is a lot for a young person to have to go through. I highly commend couples who have and are making this type of relationship work.

If you liked Blue Valentine, then I suggest watching this movie.


And to you my dear friend who has taught me so much, wherever you may be, I wish you much happiness and bliss with your other half :) Thank you for showing me patience and resilience.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Social Media Madness!

Great news! I finally have a smartphone w/ a data plan!!! I am switching from my BlackBerry that was lovingly dubbed "pinkberry" and am now sporting a Nexus S google phone as my new "sidekick". As much as I love my BB and the fact that it's Canadian made, Nexus S (to be named..) and I are quickly forming a steamy relationship that should hopefully go beyond infatuation.

Another great news: After 4+ years of putting up with Rogers and all their hassles and down right theiving, I've switched over to Mobilicity (link for info below), a smaller carrier.

Pros = Unlimited EVERYTHING!! including long North America wide long distance.
Cons = Very limited towers

With Mobilicity's no contract policy, I can switch over to one of the big 3 again, probably with my tail between my legs, but let's hope and pray that won't be the case ^_^


And with this new sidekick, I can finally have the internet w/ me ALL the time. Real time information needed from movie times to news to Facebook is only a click away anytime, anywhere! Aaack!!!

In addition, guess who's now back on Twitter? Thank goodness for Seesmic app (link for info below) that manages both FB and Twitter very efficiently. A twitter box has been added that shows real time tweets.

It feels so great to have social media work to my advantage and to be in the know of what's happening right away. Let's just hope it doesn't become an addiction. Too much anyway :p

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Wednesday, September 28, 2011

A Musical Kinda Day

Today was a great day.

It was so great that I feel it was taken out of a picture perfect montage in a movie. It was so great that I could have gone through it in song Glee style or Sound of Music. It was so great it should go down as the best day in history.

Why was it great?

It certainly did not start out great or even good for that matter. My day started out early, waaaay to early for my liking. After hitting the snooze button 10+ times, I finally dragged myself out of bed, shivering because it was freezing, and stumbled into the shower in a daze. After fighting with the faucet to get just the right temperature (damn you apartment building plumbing!!!), forgoing washing my hair because there was no time to blowdry, I finally ran out of my apartment just in time to catch the bus.

And that is when it started to turn around for me. Catching the bus was pure luck because I could shave time instead of walking. Armed with a big smile on my face along with rice cracker crumbs, I enter my work proud of the fact that I was early, even managing to beat one of the usual early birds.

Work was busy. The whole place was buzzing with activity and due to a big new project, some people are super stressed out right now. They were snappy and grumpy but throughout all this my smile never waivered.

Hurray for tasking!! I had lots of things to do. There's nothing I hate more than having nothing to do at work. Also, most of the people I worked with had smiles on their faces and though we were busy doing our thang, we still joked around which makes the environment light. And with me being so happy, I was more productive.

And throughout all these, what makes this the best day ever is the songs that played in the background. Every song was a happy song. I should have listed all the titles but from memory here's what I remember:

1. Sheryl Crow's song "...making love cause is free..." (don't know the title but I LOVE this song!)
2. Walking on sunshine
3. Here comes the sun
4. "And I said heeeey yea yea yea, I said hey, what's going on?"
5. Over the rainbow

Having the right music is a great background to having a great day as I found out today. Life is so much more wonderful. It has the power to erase troubles away even for the duration of a favorite song.

I made a conscious decision to have a great day, and that in itself allowed me to be at peace. My peaceful state of mind allowed me to hear the music and appreciate it to its full extent. And being in a happy state of mind, there was no other choice but to have a great day. It's a great cycle and definitely something to remember during the days that the skies aren't so clear.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Twists and Turns and Lessons Learned

Note: This is not a full review of the book, just my personal observation.

My favorite book this summer would have to be penned by the inspirational Mr. Michael J. Fox.


While browsing at the library, this book instantly caught my eye. It was sitting on the Staff Pick shelf. The title alone caused me to pause and pick it up because it definitely mirrored my own life. A lot of "funny" things happened to the future for sure. Looking back I am happy to admit that I can now giggle, even laugh at some of the events and my reaction to these events. To be sure back then while it was happening to me it was anything but  funny. The simplicity of the cover was also very powerful and intriguing.

The book was a very easy read; totalling exactly 100 pages. It's a funny telling of Michael J. Fox's early years starting from him being a lackluster student to pursuing his love of theatre and the lessons learned along the way to becoming the successful man he has become.

This was definitely a great read and I found laughed and kicked myself when thinking about the mistakes I made. But like the author, I too thought "Even if I could turn back time, would I do the same pig-headed shit again?" Though it would have been really nice if my life was a piece of cake, I really would not be the person I am today if I didn't have those experiences. No scars to show, no empathy for others either.

Lots of times I had to fight the temptation of taking my highlighter or folding a page here and there. One of my favorite quotes in this book is on page 1 (yes...already I found one that quickly)

" Life is a ride. Strap in, hang on, and keep your eyes open."
How true! A lot of times we try to control our destiny that we forget to just cruise and enjoy the ride. Being a "control-freak", I am very guilty of this. Growing up I made plans; list after list of what, how and when I wanted NEEDED to achieve things in my life in order to be successful. Well...on the way to the future, something funny happened. And that something happens to be depression. Though not a laughing matter, it was ironic in that the one thing I couldn't control became, at that time, to be the one in control and inevitably took my future hostage. Now I have learned that what happened was meant to happen to teach me a lesson on being resilient, having patience and even letting go. When I let go and enjoy the ride, that is when things come together.



My other favorite quote from this book and the most memorable is:

 "I might have skipped class, but I didn't miss any lessons."
This is very near and dear to my heart and I could not agree more! As someone who also left the traditional school early, I can very much relate that I learned lessons a school teacher could not have taught me. It may not translate to a grade on a report card, but there is no putting down lessons learned "in the streets/field".

Tree of Life - we are all from one tree...but our paths have different branches

I definitely have done things on the flip side; working early and starting school late, but everyone has their own life journey and decisions to make including which path in life to choose. Whatever that path is, we should always strive to learn from our experiences. It is the best education of all. The best gift the present can give us so we are equipped (to some degree) to be able to face the future head on.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Summer Lovin

 ...havin a blast.

Oh summer my summer, where art thou my summer??? Are you here? Are you there? Are you anywhere?

It's that bittersweet moment again where I bid adieu to the lazy days of summer, a season that seems to be rushing away from me like falling sand in between my fingers, and welcome fall with stiff open arms.

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Lately I've been thinking about ending my blogging hiatus and re-starting to blog again. So many ideas have popped up in my head but I just haven't had the heart to start or if I do start, words seem to fail me at the crucial moment. So here's to the beginning of more inspirations, literary and otherwise.

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Bucket List

My Very Own Bucket List!!
This will be an ongoing list. Not in any particular order.
  1.  Fall in love
  2. Swim in the ocean
  3. Vacation in Greece
  4. Learn how to shoot a gun
  5. Become a big sister (volunteer)
  6. Paint my nails a different color per nail
  7. Learn to do nail art
  8. Zorbing!!
  9. Ice Fishing
  10. Paint a community mural (somewhat completed in May 2011)
  11. Make brasso de mercedez
  12. Hit the "trails" this summer
  13. Geocaching
  14. Learn to sculpt
  15. Try glass blowing
  16. Glass cutting
  17. Have an office
  18. Volunteer overseas
  19. Live on my own abroad
  20. Own my teashop/bookshop/cupcakery in a small town or in an eclectic community in the city.
  21. Go for a cross country trip in Canada (on a Honda Goldwing bike if possible ^_^)
  22. Shop in New York City
  23. Go on a cruise
  24. Visit the caribbean
  25. Travel around Asia especially Vietnam, Indonesia, Mongolia and Thailand
  26. Take part in Amazing Race or something similar
  27. Check out all the festivals in Calgary
  28. Have a child, whether my own or adopted
  29. Get my learners
  30. Get my drivers license
Things not on the original list but I have done!

  1. Gone winter skiing (well...really it's snow blading but close enough!) 2012, Jan
  2. Dance like a burlesque and perform a routine! 2012, Jan






Monday, May 23, 2011

Help! I'm addicted to Procastinationism

When I first started this blog I had every intention of posting everyday. I was filled with excitement and really gungho on the whole idea. Though I've not completely abandoned this blog, I haven't been as loyal to it as I should be.

Why is it that when I get/do something new I get really excited about it and after I have it, I get really bored and end up procastinating? And it seems that the higher on the "importance" scale it is, the more I procastinate???

I looked up procastinate online and according to Urban Dictionary it means: "To stall time. To waste other peoples time, or to procastinate and waste time for no reason, when others are expecting you to be timely." This is totally what I do; describes it to a T!

Even as I'm typing this entry I got distracted at looking at procastination pictures on google. Oh geez! Hmm...I will figure it out....later. 


Saturday, May 21, 2011

Being a witness to bullying

It's Friday night and the start of a long weekend. Though my long weekend plans have been cancelled due to work schedules, I foolishly thought that it was going to be an uneventful day. Unfortunately for me but fortunately for someone else, destiny had other plans.

On my way home from work tonight, I became an unwilling witness to bullying. All I wanted to do was get home, drink tea and just put my feet up. Without going into all the details, there was bullying in a crowded LRT train where a girl got attacked by a group of other teenagers. Police were involved but I'm glad to say the victim is physically okay. Her mental and emotional state is hard to judge obviously.

My teenage years are not that far behind me for sure but looking back at this event after a couple of hours, I am filled with disbelief and questions.
  • How could this have happened in a crowded train station?
  • What were the bullies thinking?
  • What was going on in the mind of the attacker when she was blowing punches at the victim?
  • Why did the other people in the group just stand there and let it happen?
  • Why didn't anyone else help?
  • What would have happened if I hadn't come along?

Call it being at "the right place at the right time" for her. As for me, I'm not really sure. After giving my statement and being interviewed by a police officer I left feeling numb but yet nervous. Numb from having just witnessed something not typically seen in real life; something I only see on the news and YouTube. The nervous feeling comes from the fear (though unfounded but still real) that there might be retaliation since they saw me on my cell. Gah! I know it's not about me but the victim and the crime, but still all bystanders must feel this at some point. To tell or not to tell? To keep your head down and mind your own business. But how could I? I would feel a lot worse if I hadn't done something when I had the chance.

 
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be an active bystander! Bullying comes in many forms. We all need to do our part putting a stop to this. No one needs to be hurt physically, emotionally, phsychologically or in any way, shape or form.

Here's a great article about bullying and what it means to be a bystander. It's geared towards kids and I think it's from Australia so some of the language is different. Are you a bystander to bullying?

Going to go bed now. Pheew..I feel much better writing this. Take care ♥

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

When making a living supersedes making a life




"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want." - Margaret Young via VenusVision on facebook.



Unless you choose a hermit lifestyle, it's pretty hard these days to live without money. So it's never a bad thing to spend time doing your job. What is bad is when your life is your job. Do things that make you happy. Set aside some time in your busy lives doing things things such as:
  • spending time with your family
  • cooking up a new recipe
  • catching up on your reading list
  • going on a non-business related road trip
  • making someone else's life better by volunteering
  • recharge your endorphins by going to the gym
  • or just being by yourself, whether it's a day of reflection at the beach, meditation or even yoga
Money is essential in our society but if you don't find a balance between work and play, then you are paying a price too high.

Monday, April 4, 2011

New page - New poster - End of spring break

Today is the last day of my spring break. Before it ended though, I vowed that I would stop procrastinating and add something new to this blog and I'm happy to report that I followed through. Things added are:
  • check out poster to the right-->> Totally describes me and why I chose the name of this blog. This image isn't the reason, but what a great opportunity to have found it on google ^^
  • Quote compilations page = Cute kitty image is gone. I finally put some content! Moved the quotes from my Facebook Notes to here.
So yeay..mission accomplished! Please visit the page and share some quotes you love. Have a great week!

Thursday, March 31, 2011

"Paint Brush" - by: Bettie B. Youngs


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Disclaimer: This is NOT my poem.

This poem is very dear to my heart as it describes my vulnerability. In junior high we had to do a poetry project and I found this while spring cleaning which made me super duper happy ^_^.

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Paint Brush
by Bettie B. Youngs

I keep my paint brush with me
Wherever I may go,
In case I need to cover up
So the real me doesn’t show
I’m so afraid to show you me,
Afraid of what you’ll do—that
You might laugh or say mean things.
I’m afraid I might lose you.


I’d like to remove all my paint coats
To show you the real, true me,
But I want you to try and understand,
I need you to accept what you see.
So if you’ll be patient and close your eyes.
I’ll strip off all my coats real slow.
Please understand how much it hurts
To let the real me show.

Now my coats are all stripped off.
I feel naked, bare and cold,
And if you still love me with all that you see,
You are my friend, pure as gold.

I need to save my paint brush, though,
And hold it in my hand,
I want to keep it handy
In case somebody doesn’t understand.
So please protect me, my dear friend
And thanks for loving me true,
But please let me keep my paintbrush with me
Until I love me, too.

Bettie B. Youngs

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Shoes that are pretty AND practical!?!

Shoes! Shoes! Shoes! What girl isn't having a love a affair with shoes? As the gorgeous Marilyn Monroe once said "Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world." But what is the "right shoe"?


Last Sunday, Cody and I were walking around Kensington (one of my fave places in CGY) to attend the Market Collective. To my dismay, we had to walk 3 blocks to get to this building. Now normally I love to walk especially in a vibrant community like Kensington. Unfortunately today I just happened to be wearing these fuggs and the thought of stepping in the puddles made me cringe and whine to my already annoyed boyfriend (we were running late as usual).

Hello! Evidence that I made it to the bldg, fuggs and all ^^
See, now that the weather has finally started to become warm and puddles as big as wading pools seem to be everywhere, I haven't quiet adjusted to wearing the proper footwear for the season. After wearing these fuggs for almost 5 months, you'd think I'd be sick of them and at the first sign of melting snow the fuggs would be the first one to go into storage. Nope, not the case.

So there I was whining about how I'm not wearing the proper shoes and bitching about why he would park 3 blocks! away from this building. He looks at my shoes, looks at me, then again at the shoes and then away while sighing in disgust. "Why do girls' insist in wearing shoes that they can't even walk in? Before you complained that you can't walk in heels, now you're complaining you can't walk in flat boots!!"

The fuggs are on top of the luggage...fuggs = fake Uggs
At first I was insulted at this. Say whaaaat?? Oh no he didn't! *cue finger snaps* Then we looked at each other and both started to laugh. As much as I hate to admit it, the man is right. Why do we wear shoes that pinch, create calluses, bunions, and sometimes can lead to broken ankles, legs and even worse! How can this man, whose shoe collection I can count with one hand, possibly understand that whether they are boots, heels or even flats, the right shoe completes an outfit!

So when it comes to Function vs. Fashion...what wins in the end?

Here are some examples of extreme footwear that some of poor soul has subjected themselves to. Ouch!


Is all the pain really worth it just to look good? Does the pain of pinching shoes take a way from the feeling of wearing the perfect heel?

After looking at these hopefully the bf will appreciate when once in a while I happen to whine about my poor aching feet and beg to be carried to the car or up the stairs. Maybe I can even get a food rub too? ^_-

As to the question of why we love shoes? I think this quote from Toni Collete's character Rose Feller in the movie In Her Shoes answers that perfectly:
"...Clothes never look any good... food just makes me fatter... shoes always fit."

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